An Open Letter to Late Jiah Khan


Wherever you might be,

You were among those rare drop-head faces. You were an actor. You were successful . OK lets be reasonable, soon to be successful. You were young. Yet you choose to take a step which was abominable. Everybody goes through vexatious time, but, does everybody decide to kill thyself? I think NO. To put across my take in a better way I would go ahead and divide this letter in two sections- before suicide, after suicide. One thing common among both the sections would be ‘The Letter You Wrote’ as stated by your family. Though, I think that this is a different story and I doubt your family’s intentions when they say ‘you’ wrote that letter; especially, when it came out after so many days. But, I think that is OK, even for me writing an epic blog post does take time.

 You were young yet sad, thus, you killed yourself.

As per your letter I am assuming that you and Sooraj were in a relationship. If not a relationship, maybe you guys were friends, close friends, or may have be into a sexual relationship as well. That is OK. No issues on that part. So where was the problem? You enjoyed being with him and vice-verse. A lot of time you guys may have made love. Again no issues. Absolutely OK. One time it went wrong, you became pregnant. He may have asked you to abort the child; maybe it was wrong on his part. If he had guts to dip the fork into the cake, he should have had balls to take care of the pudding too. 😉

Though I wonder if you had no sense of how to use contraception or how condoms are readily available in market these days; yeah female condoms too. And moreover if I assume that he may not have asked you to abort the child, would you really have stepped ahead to give birth to the baby? I don’t think so. If you would have then I think you would have been a bigger fool than what your suicide has made out of you. It is obviously something what wonders me that how come a 22 yr just college pass out guy can pass on you like this? I am sure there had been a spark from both the ends. You know like those fairy-tale stories of Bollywood- an actor sees an upcoming actor in a party. They talk, they meet, they are then good friends, and they end into a live in relationship kind of thing.

In your letter you wrote “Yet you tortured me every day.” What do you mean by that? Were you a slave to him? OR did he kept you under a lock all the time or do you want to say that he was such an animal that he even put a chastity lock on you? Saying that he put you through mysterious affliction is something very foolish on your part. How come just anybody who is also just another actor’s son can dominate you? You were 25; mature enough. And don’t give me the crap that you were all in love with him. You may have been but, I am sure that you cannot be such a fool that you don’t know what is into a man’s mind. I don’t say that Sooraj was not wrong maybe he was but were you all right on your part? I see a difficult yes here.

“It didn’t matter how many gifts I gave you or how beautiful I looked for you”. How does this make sense? Does giving gifts make a lifetime relationship? I doubt my dear Jiah. Because if that would have been the case there would not have been any divorces in this world and yes breakups too. And tell me if he asked you to give him gifts or in fact his sister. I am sure you did it out of your affection towards him.

You mentioned that your life was him and your work. Please tell me what work are you talking about? What best I know your career is that you had no major projects in your kitty since 2010. You were well aware that your self-proclaimed lover is already cheating on you but you choose to ignore that. Who asked you? Why didn’t you take it on his face itself? You know it well that he is not looking for a stable relationship with you but, it was you who was forcing the relationship on him. He was innocent. He was only doing what most of people do at this age; casual relationships. And please don’t give me the crap that you may not have ever been into a casual relationships, it’s OK, everybody does that. He was no different.  I am sure that you also would have had your piece of casual relationships.

I also choose to disagree on your claims that he raped you. Your letter clearly states that you guys were involved sexually on mutual terms. So rape is not in the picture my dear. You are not a school kid with whom a guy would play doctor-doctor games.

You died, with your wish, and made other people’s life nothing less than death.

OKAY. Let’s now talk about important part. You died. Cool with me. But what was the purpose of making another person’s life more miserable than death. That young chap now stands nowhere- not that he stood anywhere in his life earlier but still, you did make him lose a lot. Mind it A LOT. He at this time is forcefully playing a role of victim and take my words he did not deserve that. Tell me why would you like to blame him? Just because he made love to you when you were ready. He had a good time with you when you too wanted the same?

You yourself mentioned in your six page letter that how you didn’t see any love or commitment from him, then please, for God’s grace tell me where did you see that he would marry you or even continue in a relationship with you. You knew everything already then why are you blaming him now?

Or did you blame him because he chooses to go with another women and your ego was badly hurt? We all have our share of breakups in our lives but does that mean that we run pillar-to-post to make the other person’s life miserable. Let me take an example here:

I like somebody. She is beautiful. She has rejected my proposal umpteen times. So should I take her to police because she is not accepting my proposal and I may go ahead and suicide and write a letter on her name. Should I tell everyone that if I kill myself then she should be held responsible because she did not like me?

Surely my condolence is with your family. The loss is bigger than anything but, loss has already happened. It cannot be reverted and moreover you decided to kill yourself so the blame should not be put to somebody else’s table. Your family is now blaming the poor kid for something he may not have been even aware of.

About your mom now, there is no question that her loss is irreversible. But, is she doing good in terms of make the poor guy’s life lamentable. I wonder if she saw those marks on your neck and body earlier then why didn’t she took up the thing with police then?

She is also to be blamed here, after all, she knew everything first hand and it was she who had a blindfold on her hand then. And please don’t say that she did not do that because she was worried about your image because if that would have been the case this whole letter and the abortion and the rape and the ‘My daughter was victim’ and this and that thing would never have came out. Another thing : Do you hint if your mom is doing this to mint some money?

In the end the conclusion that I drive to is that you did not kill yourself because you had to go through a troublesome relationship but because you did not had a career and a life you wanted. But, it was your big ego that did not allow you to accept that fact, thus, you opted to choose a abominable reason and blame a man who probably may have had a gloaming career. Thanks Jiah, you were successfully able to deteriorate a man’s family and career. Much thanks. I mean this is the best you could do to take the scourge of your own death; which surprisingly you took yourself.

Best, and RIP wishes,

Aditya Bhasin

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Also read:
http://www.timesofindia.com/entertainment/bollywood/news-interviews/What-Jiah-Khan-wrote-to-Suraj-Pancholi/articleshow/20588413.cms

http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/city/mumbai/Jiahs-suicide-note-was-unsigned-carried-no-date-and-took-no-names-Pancholis-lawyer/articleshow/20596487.cms
Disclaimer : This post does not intend to hurt anybody’s sentiments or emotional belief. The views expressed are solely of Aditya Bhasin and may or may not have an acceptance from others. Readers are suggested to make a sound opinion after reading this post. If anything is found to be derogatory, author demands apologies.

Update : June 14 2013 02.:37 AM

1) Para 12 changed “loss had already happened”  to “Loss has already happened”

2) Para 6 : Replaced the word “never” with “ever”

3) Para 3: replaced “then” with “than”

4)Para 3: changed “I think you are a bigger fool” to “I think you would have been a bigger fool”

Update : June 14th 7: 03 AM

1) Added disclaimer

Update: June 14th 7:23 PM

1) Added TOI link

Update June 15th 02.03 AM

 

1) Added TOI link

Thanks Priyanshi Gulati for proof reading.

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62 thoughts on “An Open Letter to Late Jiah Khan

  1. Dearest Aditya,

    Thank You for taking a few moments of your time and corresponding with me with reference to the blog post that you have dedicated to the late Jiah Khan. I apologize for this delay in replying to you too! In due consideration to your subjective point of view towards Jiah’s relationship with Pancholi, I personally feel that it’s most prudent to perceive this entire case scenario from Jiah’s own perspective as well, in conjunction to Suraj’s; the grass is always greener on the other side.

    While a number of factors mentioned in her suicide letter supposedly seem to be ‘bashing’ Suraj and his many ways, I strongly feel that this isn’t so – from the eyes and shoes of a woman who has severely been hurt over the years with not just this traumatized relationship but also due to various other acts of abuse, all she is intending to vocalize is that she has been deeply anguished due to her lover’s aloof behaviour. She doesn’t mean to condescend or emasculate Suraj by any means of the imagination. How can she intend to, anyway – she was head over heels in love with him! While it does relatively seem that way, it’s nothing more than mere feelings of unconditional love (hey, I don’t know about you, but I and a number of people I know who have fallen in love have expressed themselves in this way – only to be accepted by their partners nonetheless – for this vibe is such that you accept a person no matter the kind of flaws they have, and no matter how they think about you. Explaining this sensation is elusive!) I can clearly feel the intensity of the pain that she may have felt in her heart shortly prior to her suicide, for I and countless other women who feel betrayed by a man in a similar manner have felt it too – and we know just how abhorrent and harrowing these sentiments can feel; there’s a certain stigma to it.

    What’s more, while Jiah’s final act of suicide was way out of bounds (I mean, we’ve all dealt with broken relationships and have been cheated on, right?), her sense of trauma could’ve been of a much higher caliber as she had experienced a number of anomalies that most emotionally stable girls otherwise haven’t – a rape during her adolescence, and an abortion prior to her death. Both these factors are crucial in determining the overall health of a woman’s psychology as both heavily lead to negative traits such as depression, and yes, impulses to commit suicide.

    She was also extremely clingy towards Suraj, regardless of how much he had been reassuring her, on the other hand. While I root for a certain level of clinginess as being relatively natural and normal for a woman as she falls in love with a man, I agree that her personal level of neediness herewith was also a tad more compulsive than the rest. The explanation for this was fear – yes, the very kind that gave her notions of being abandoned by her beau, which in turn led her to act incessantly attached, making her mind wander uncontrollably towards the negative. This kind of fear that one is about to abandon you only occurs in a lady when she has experienced something of a similar accord in her past – probably any other leading men in her life (father, brother or a former boyfriend) may have walked away without a backward glance, never to appear again.

    Therefore, this resolution clearly indicates one major red flag – Jiah Khan needed help, clinical help, the professional kind from a psychiatrist or counsellor in order to extricate herself from the depths of her trauma and hopelessness and thereby welcome life afresh with more strength, courage and enthusiasm. This suicide could’ve been prevented at a much higher probability – all she needed was a helping hand. It’s so heartbreaking that nobody around her was able to notice these clear-cut indicators and take action upon them.

    In conclusion, my heart really does bleed for her, for I truly and deeply understand the kind of anguish she may have felt in her life not just from this tumultuous relationship, but also from a string of ordeals that date back much earlier on in time. What with all these trials occurring in tandem, it’s just that all this negative stress has accumulated gradually, and when she could take it no more – snap, she reached wit’s end.

    I am in no way seconding Jiah’s decision to commit suicide – no, for dear life is something that needs to tread along with time and end only when it biologically has to. My aforementioned elaboration was only intended for you to perceive her helpless outlook from her’s, and rather, any typical woman’s perspective, my dear friend 🙂 And my only humble request for you is that you kindly get into our boots for just a moment and try to consider this from our perspective, for I always like to scrutinize any situation from every possible angle before ever coming to a conclusion.

    No hard feelings at all, Aditya 🙂 ❤ My warmest regards to you and your dear ones! ❤ ~Shabnam 🙂 ❤

    • I am so glad to read from you Shabnam. Thanks again for dropping by and yes apologies for approving this comment so late. I happen to notice this today only (my bad).

      I am happy to read your prospective and understand this too. I don’t say that you are wrong, you have your point and I surely appreciate that. 🙂

      Once again, thanks a ton for reading and sharing your opinion with me in such a detail !

  2. Awesome Blog Aditya… There are people who used word like “asshole” for you, who may not know you well, would like to tell them that if they are disagreed with your views and opinions, they have complete rights to mention their views and disagreement on what you wrote, but at the same time they do not have certain rights to use such comments for you or for anyone.
    I understand that you are very much open to this but these blog actually stands on what an individual feels or thinks, so there is no point of abusing someone.
    While reading this blog i never felt hat you have written it to make money or to get publicity, but i think there are people who should understand that they are no one to forgive you for just posting your views via this “open letter”.
    Now to some people it seems that I must be sounding more like I’m singing Aditya’s praises, but let me answer them that it’s just that i like what he wrote, which may not sound/look good to everyone lot but his intentions of writing this blog is not lousy at all.

    Once again, Good work Aditya, and keep it up.

  3. Oopsss…..what the hell addii….m really disappointed with your this blog post as u present a girl in such a worst side. Also the pointts i want to make clear about your this blog has already been mentioned by Priyaa.

    Sometimes your views led towards the pitch of the fallen land so please be carefull, before writing such things about any girl when you dont have any sense of periodic maturity and senstivity of a women.

      • Excellent analysis and writeup Aditya. This is how usually all psycho suicides end up as “rape cases” and “dowry death cases”

      • rather go to your answers i should leave a comment here that i appreciate your views and i know what you want to share here but still this blog is somehow somewhere disregarded (sorry to say this) by readers….. and totally be scoffed as per me but for this time only. Hope for the best in your future posts.

  4. And if you are really so desperate to show your writings, why don’t you pick up much burning issues say politics and other. But where is the gut then!

    Can’t believe people are saying excellent writing and you are using emoicons and saying keep up the support!

    Yuck, creepy and how very typical indian male mind!
    Grow up you guys, will you!

  5. Sent by a reader via Google Forms

    “Well said Aditya.. agree with you except the reason you stated of her suicide.

    I don’t think she would have ended up her life just because she had no significant work to do in the industry for a long time, but what I feel is that she was deeply in love with him indeed, and her love i would say made her completely blind, irrational, foolish person which left her wounded and broken inside which we can’t think of i guess.

    Apart from that, i believe in spiritual theory of karma as well that our lives are more or less driven by karmas of previous lifetime as well and they definitely do have bearing on us in this lifetime, which we can’t escape from and we must have to bear the outcome.

    http://www.dadabhagwan.org/scientific-solutions/relationship/death-and-relationships/causes-of-accidental-death/

    Isn’t it ? or may be you may call me foolish because i believe in karma theory and all..Whatever it is but i am inclined to believe in spiritual science.

    Anyways thanks for your article. I find it quite rational.

    🙂 “

  6. Well, it’s really very difficult to say what exactly has happened, We can only guess about the events, also why these things has happened, why the lady committed suicide. She was, indeed, not very successful when it comes to her career being an actress.
    The changing statements of her mother is leaving imprints of ambiguous thoughts. On the other hand, she opened the letter for media and the rest of the world. That I think should have never happened.
    I believe that there could be various ways to look at the matter. The way you r looking at this might be very offensive to others. But that is what we are trained for, to see things with strong, different, unique and mostly rejected perception.
    There’s no doubt in it that this piece is insensitive and rude towards Khan but u may not know that this could be the bitter truth.
    RIP, Jiah Khan.

    • Hey Meenakshi,

      Finally a girl who is supporting me a little, very little here. (After Rozy). I see that you can surely make sense from my blog, the exact thing I want to put across.

      “The changing statements of her mother is leaving imprints of ambiguous thoughts. On the other hand, she opened the letter for media and the rest of the world. That I think should have never happened.”

      I do not disagree that this letter may be is offensive, but as you yourself mentioned, one has to see things from a stronger approach.

      -AB

  7. When you make certain choices based on your liking than fine but you have to live with you consequences.. It will be less than useful to look for scapegoat to pass the blame.. Now with that said it does not lessen any criminality involved, if at all.

    In this case, Both were mature enough to enter into relationship.. Jiah Khan chose to live with the boy and have physical relationship without understanding final results. Its called “consensual Relationship/Sex”.. She than choose to agree for an abortion than why not end the relationship at that point? Now if it does not work out as you wanted it to than cant blame the other for deceiving you.. For a second if you reverse the scenario, what if boy was to suffer the cheating by Jiah and he had committed suicide than would you hold her in Jail? No, not at all.. rightfully, he would be called as too coward and mentally weak. So why should Jiah khan be treated any different?
    Mental issues leading to any weakness or Suicide are gender free and shall remain as such. As much as we feel for when person dies tragic death but in the end we should never loose sight of objectivity when making any statements. RIP..

  8. In India it’s now a fashion to turn consensual sex into Rape as an after-thought.. anywhere from 60-90% of reported rape cases are false and fallout of jilted love-affairs.
    e.g. few news items below:
    1) http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2013-01-04/patna/36148093_1_bahadurganj-police-kishanganj-sp-complaint-cases
    2) http://www.punemirror.in/article/62/201004282010042800020376672f460c5/Rape-on-second-thought.html
    3) http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2013-05-18/ranchi/39353985_1_police-station-investigation-police-officer

    coming to #Jiah case, her mom initially said that Jiah had mood swings .. AND while her daughter was killing herself, the mom herself was dining with Aditya Panscholi, which tells their families were on good terms (even though Jiah was being abused by this man’s son Sooraj Pancholi!!) – http://www.hindustantimes.com/Entertainment/Bollywood/Mom-says-Jiah-Khan-had-mood-swings-often-blames-love-affair/Article1-1071112.aspx
    It appears, the U-turn in mom’s version is to encash it..

    • Thanks for sharing all the links here. I have tried to use all of them to revert to my other readers views.

      Your comment has surely turned out to be of great help.

      -Aditya Bhasin

  9. Well, aren’t we glad that the poor depressed girl is dead and we can all take potshots on her.
    This post was in real poor taste, I am sorry to say.

    • Hey there,

      I certainly appreciate your take on this post. You are far more experienced than me an I am sure when you say something you do make sense. But, I also expect that you try and understand my take here on this whole incident.

      -AB

  10. So many guys commit suicide due to rejection in love affairs. Are their girlfriends being arrested? Did police arrest actress Rekha for her husband’s suicide? Did they even file FIR and investigate? People are paranoid and dumb. Interersting, Jiah Khan has nothing to write to her mother or sisters in her suicide note.

  11. such an insensitive article….couldn’t even read it to end…still few points….
    1) who are u to say that she might not have given birth to bay or shit like that!!!! If she’s not to blame her “lover” U r not to condemn her on knowing enough on how to use female condomns..

    2)she wrote he tortured her evryday..agreed she was not a kid or slave..but there people who are highly sensitive

    3) The word success is not the glory and fame only…what big projects are talking about? Can’t people love their work..whatever they do….its difficult to define sucess..may be she loved her work or her BF but mind you, you cant say it like she had no major projects or so!!!!

    4) Yes, she herself told that they were in sexual relationship…but then Aditya, tell me, can’t there br rape in a relationship….have you ever heard of a term marital rape? and for god sake…please change your notions about this very word “rape”…..or are you another male chauvinist

    5)” If he had guts to dip the fork into the cake, he should have had balls to take care of the pudding too.” Any other HUMOROUS lines u could come up with, aditya????

    6) agreed with first commentor and i too want to repeat same lines…”Man..I am imagining the same letter you have written to your sister, who has committed suicide. Perhaps your family would be minting money from it.”

  12. The worst article I have ever read. Man..I am imagining the same letter you have written to your sister, who has committed suicide. Perhaps your family would be minting money from it. What do you think…you gain limelight through this??? Duh…forget it! You have gained only and only a title for you that is….asshole.

    • When you make certain choices based on your liking than fine but you have to live with you consequences.. It will be less than useful to look for scapegoat to pass the blame.. Now with that said it does not lessen any criminality involved, if at all.

      In this case, Both were mature enough to enter into relationship.. Jiah Khan chose to live with the boy and have physical relationship without understanding final results. Its called “consensual Relationship/Sex”.. She than choose to agree for an abortion than why not end the relationship at that point? Now if it does not work out as you wanted it to than cant blame the other for deceiving you.. For a second if you reverse the scenario, what if boy was to suffer the cheating by Jiah and he had committed suicide than would you hold her in Jail? No, not at all.. rightfully, he would be called as too coward and mentally weak. So why should Jiah khan be treated any different?
      Mental issues leading to any weakness or Suicide are gender free and shall remain as such. As much as we feel for when person dies tragic death but in the end we should never loose sight of objectivity when making any statements. RIP..,,,,,

    • F U SNEHAL

      When you make certain choices based on your liking than fine but you have to live with you consequences.. It will be less than useful to look for scapegoat to pass the blame.. Now with that said it does not lessen any criminality involved, if at all.

      In this case, Both were mature enough to enter into relationship.. Jiah Khan chose to live with the boy and have physical relationship without understanding final results. Its called “consensual Relationship/Sex”.. She than choose to agree for an abortion than why not end the relationship at that point? Now if it does not work out as you wanted it to than cant blame the other for deceiving you.. For a second if you reverse the scenario, what if boy was to suffer the cheating by Jiah and he had committed suicide than would you hold her in Jail? No, not at all.. rightfully, he would be called as too coward and mentally weak. So why should Jiah khan be treated any different?
      Mental issues leading to any weakness or Suicide are gender free and shall remain as such. As much as we feel for when person dies tragic death but in the end we should never loose sight of objectivity when making any statements. RIP..,,,,,

    • For obvious reasons I do not accept profanity on my blog. If I go by the comment moderation policy (https://ispeakab.wordpress.com/comment-moderation-policy/) I can surely go ahead and delete this comment. But, I choose not to do that. I certainly agree that if I have my fundamental rights to speak, you too have same 

      Let’s come to the point.

      Thankfully, my family has given us good education and made us mentally strong to handle any situation.
      The reason why I mentioned about the money part was only because at first place her mom stated that “Jiah had mood swings” (http://www.hindustantimes.com/Entertainment/Bollywood/Mom-says-Jiah-Khan-had-mood-swings-often-blames-love-affair/Article1-1071112.aspx) and then brought the Sooraj and love link
      Also it may interest you that on the fateful night when Jiah killed herself Jiah’s mother was having dinner with Aditya Panchooli (http://daily.bhaskar.com/article/CEL-nafisa-khan-suicide-jiahs-mom-rabbiya-was-out-for-dinner-with-aditya-pancholi-on-4283468-PHO.html?seq=2

      This obviously shows how both the families were on good terms. Her mother’s claim that she knew how Sooraj used to beat Jiah already has also gone in vain.

      Would you as a mother visit somebody’s family whom you knew was not in good terms with your children? Do answer
      – Trying Regards,
      – Aditya Bhasin

  13. I am highly disappointed..Its not only an immature writing,but also shows how ruthless you are inside,so inhumane to understand how love may ruin your life,how can sense of failure from everything in your life may drive you to a decision like this..do you think by any chance it was easy for her to kill herself..if thats the case my friend you need to do study human psychology ,when you understand it the very thought would scare you..
    and if you claim that why should you read,then you need to realize the importance of responsibility you hold while writing a public blog like this,please do some homework before coming to conclusions like this… you need to put yourself in her shoes and try to understand the intensity of her love that she blinded herself of his cheating and his rude behavior which was a “torture” for her.

    . And regarding rape claim you mentioned ,let me make you aware you about that, we even have cases of rape charges by a wife ,a mother of two kids,rape is nothing but attempt of sexual relation without consent of other counterpart,so that could be valid for Jiah too,even if she was already in sexual relationship with Suraj Pancholi.

    Its very easy to sit back on your bed or may be a comfortable office chair and write all this about a girl who punished herself and her family for two mistakes which are called “TRUST” & “AMBITION”.

    • When you make certain choices based on your liking than fine but you have to live with you consequences.. It will be less than useful to look for scapegoat to pass the blame.. Now with that said it does not lessen any criminality involved, if at all.

      In this case, Both were mature enough to enter into relationship.. Jiah Khan chose to live with the boy and have physical relationship without understanding final results. Its called “consensual Relationship/Sex”.. She than choose to agree for an abortion than why not end the relationship at that point? Now if it does not work out as you wanted it to than cant blame the other for deceiving you.. For a second if you reverse the scenario, what if boy was to suffer the cheating by Jiah and he had committed suicide than would you hold her in Jail? No, not at all.. rightfully, he would be called as too coward and mentally weak. So why should Jiah khan be treated any different?
      Mental issues leading to any weakness or Suicide are gender free and shall remain as such. As much as we feel for when person dies tragic death but in the end we should never loose sight of objectivity when making any statements. RIP..,,,.

    • Hi A regular follower, BB [Why do don’t you mention your name?  ]

      Anyways let’s come to the point 
      You have given fire to a whole together new argument ‘how love may ruin your life’. Well, then why fall in love? You said it may ruin your life then what is the whole point of falling in love?
      I have been a psychology student myself for one year and even if I was not I would still understand agony of a possible suicide victim. My homework has been up to the mark, my post is in complete reference to the letter that Jiah’s mother presented to media. You have seen yourself that I have quoted many of lines directly from her letter.

      “. And regarding rape claim you mentioned ,let me make you aware you about that, we even have cases of rape charges by a wife ,a mother of two kids,rape is nothing but attempt of sexual relation without consent of other counterpart,so that could be valid for Jiah too,even if she was already in sexual relationship with Suraj Pancholi”

      In regard to the above mentioned paragraph: This can turn out to be a completely new blog itself. It is about how false rape charges are been put onto married man now.

      Please follow 1) http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2013-01-04/patna/36148093_1_bahadurganj-police-kishanganj-sp-complaint-cases
      2) http://www.punemirror.in/article/62/201004282010042800020376672f460c5/Rape-on-second-thought.html
      3) http://articles.timesofindia.indiatimes.com/2013-05-18/ranchi/39353985_1_police-station-investigation-police-officer

      And I don’t understand why are we given this whole blog post a sexist approach. What makes you say “write all this about a girl who punished herself”. Would have written the same the thing in case of a man too ?

      Looking forward to hear from you.

      Aditya

      • I dont like mentioning………A regular follower ,BB

        Well why do you breathe in air if you know you’ll exhale next second,why do sleep if you have to wake next morning,why do you eat if you are going to shit next morning…….same is why you fall in love….

        i do agree with the point that Suraj should not be arrested for not loving Jiah,however if the facts are correct that she had a word with her 40 minutes prior to her suicide,may be he pushed her for it….

        I also agree about the point you have raised for her mother publishing suicide letter which was meant for family,however it may help her get justice ..she may have ill intentions ,i don’t deny that,but what it appears to me is agony of a mother,media has done good work previously ,Jessica Lal got justice because of media.

        And the infamous cases of fake martial rape,may be you are aware of fake Dowry charges ,but it has also saved many women..everything in world has cons and pros of it.

        And regarding home work,yes may be you went through the letter ,but not other things and reports ,that do create a doubt about both Suraj and Jiah’s mother,but not Jiah. May be Jiah’s mother is trying to fish something out of her suicide,but Jiah i dont believe can do something like this costing her life.

        “Yes if a woman must have pushed an emotionally weak man towards suicide,she should be arrested for sure.”

  14. I generally do not write negative comments but have to do so on this article.
    This was perhaps the most insensitive inhuman article I have read in some time.
    Yes the guy may not be guilty enough to be punished but the way you potrayed the women was seriously idiotic
    She clearly was in pain , plus the way you try to use LOGIC to prove your point is shameful. You clearly do not understand the psycology of suicide or human relationships.
    May I add, this is nothing but a cheap attempt by you to gain publicity. Cheapest I have seen

    • Hey SD,

      Good to see you here.

      Sad to read when you say that you do not write negative comments but doing so on my post.
      I want to be very very very clear here. I did not portray any women here. This post is not questing womanhood here. I am questing integrity of a woman who killed herself and let other people around her die like anything
      I fail to understand what pain? She knew everything beforehand; she should have prepared herself for the worst.
      Also tell me: if it was all pain that what was the reason? Just because a guy whom she liked did not like her? It is like I can declare I like somebody and if that person does not like me, I will go ahead and kill myself and then blame that person.

      You should also know that I would have written this post for ‘publicity’ only if this was a money making blog for me. I do not earn money from this blog or another blog which I may have. I write for the soul purpose of expressing my views and opinions.

      -Aditya Bhasin

      • Oh come on, you wrote it to publicize your blog. You are immature and idiotic,You think people cannot see through that? Such profanity against someone who is dead?
        You should be ashamed of yourself, seriously. I lost all respect for you

        • I am sorry SD if you did not like this blog. But, I suggest not to stereotype the whole thing. It’s just a blog. I am sure you may have read my other blogs too and must have liked them too.

          I still disagree on publicizing the blog thing. My motive for writing a blog has always and always share my views and opinion. You should know that I do not make money of my blog.

          • Aditya at one point you say, this is just a blog and do not stereotype me, Then to your defense you bring out your other blogs?
            Dont’t you see the irony?
            It takes 1 wrong thing to lose respect, And this one was for you in my eyes. I have read your blogs , your comments and your replies here too. I did not see even a hint of slightest of regret for at-least choosing the wrong language and discrediting people…Arrogance and “I am right, the world is wrong” attitude is all I see……you have shown NO respect to the dead, you have written this post in utter disrespect even though you have added a disclaimer which is kind of lame..(You actually wrote, YOU EXPECT AN APOLOGY)
            Seriously, You start by using such cruel language for others going to the extent of conspiracy theory for a mother who lost her daughter and YOU EXPECT an APOLOGY?
            From what? People calling you stupid?

            No Aditya, I was stereotyping you before, no longer. My views have been affirmed

            When i said publicity, it does not mean Money…

  15. i don’t say you have written wrong.somewhat its true.but many times a heart which is broken can not make sense.I still dont beleive its Ego which made her suicide.Its a broken heart.rest everybody has there own perceptions.
    You write well must say

    • Hi Rozy,

      Thanks for the much needed support here.
      The whole point of suicide here is difficult for me to understand. A heart break and you kill yourself? Isn’t that enough child-like?
      I still believe that her ego was one reason because of which she took this step. We can see this from two views
      1) Ego- that man she loved was evolved with another woman
      2) Ego- her unsuccessful career

      Another set of thanks for appreciating my writing. 

      Respect and Regard,
      Aditya Bhasin

  16. How insensitive can you get? How bloody insensitive? Taking winks and digs at someone who’s not even there to defend herself? I pity you and your readers (if any). You should be ashamed of what you’re speaking Aditya Bhasin. I as a reader would never forgive you for this line – “If he had guts to dip the fork into the cake, he should have had balls to take care of the pudding too.”

    • When you make certain choices based on your liking than fine but you have to live with you consequences.. It will be less than useful to look for scapegoat to pass the blame.. Now with that said it does not lessen any criminality involved, if at all.

      In this case, Both were mature enough to enter into relationship.. Jiah Khan chose to live with the boy and have physical relationship without understanding final results. Its called “consensual Relationship/Sex”.. She than choose to agree for an abortion than why not end the relationship at that point? Now if it does not work out as you wanted it to than cant blame the other for deceiving you.. For a second if you reverse the scenario, what if boy was to suffer the cheating by Jiah and he had committed suicide than would you hold her in Jail? No, not at all.. rightfully, he would be called as too coward and mentally weak. So why should Jiah khan be treated any different?
      Mental issues leading to any weakness or Suicide are gender free and shall remain as such. As much as we feel for when person dies tragic death but in the end we should never loose sight of objectivity when making any statements. RIP..,,,.,.,

    • Hi Arpita,
      Yes, I was insensitive. But, looking at what is happening on this case do you think I had a better way here?
      I completely agree that she isn’t here to defend herself but is there a scope of any more defend left? The letter that is been said that she wrote has said enough.

      There would have no Open letter if there was no ‘open’ letter that Jiah’s mother brought out.
      I can understand your disliking towards this blog post, on the other hand you should also try and think about what exactly I want to say via this letter.

      I do not intend to humiliate any one here. My idea is simple – a critical analysis of this whole incident.

      I also fail to understand why you dislike this line “If he had guts to dip the fork into the cake, he should have had balls to take care of the pudding too.” I was only supporting Jiah here, nothing else; if I can rephrase the sentence here. I would say “ Sooraj should have taken care of baby, especially when he had guts to make love to a women whom he presumably did not even love”

      Feel free to revert if you think otherwise.

      Wishes,
      Aditya Bhasin

      • You now say —“I do not intend to humiliate any one here”…..But you just humiliated a dead girl…You absolutely wanted that only my friend, Humiliate someone to gain popularity , now you retract because readers are coming after you and your own reputation is being dented…”I do not intend to humiliate any one here” —

        • Can we please move beyond this ’emotional stuff’ Would you have revolted if there was a ‘dead boy’ ? If you think my blog is humiliating Jiah then please tell me what is her mother doing? Isn’t that greater humiliation.

  17. All pertinent points there, but maybe we can give the dear departed some respite (and respect) by not digging up dirt (even when they deserve it) lest we all turn into a Shobaaa de. Having an opinion is fine, but don’t trash the lady in a public post like this.

    And maybe you could also proof read your future posts for grammatical errors before posting it.

    • When you make certain choices based on your liking than fine but you have to live with you consequences.. It will be less than useful to look for scapegoat to pass the blame.. Now with that said it does not lessen any criminality involved, if at all.

      In this case, Both were mature enough to enter into relationship.. Jiah Khan chose to live with the boy and have physical relationship without understanding final results. Its called “consensual Relationship/Sex”.. She than choose to agree for an abortion than why not end the relationship at that point? Now if it does not work out as you wanted it to than cant blame the other for deceiving you.. For a second if you reverse the scenario, what if boy was to suffer the cheating by Jiah and he had committed suicide than would you hold her in Jail? No, not at all.. rightfully, he would be called as too coward and mentally weak. So why should Jiah khan be treated any different?
      Mental issues leading to any weakness or Suicide are gender free and shall remain as such. As much as we feel for when person dies tragic death but in the end we should never loose sight of objectivity when making any statements. RIP..00

    • Hello Navin,

      Thanks for dropping by and reading this post. Much appreciate that.

      Once again thanks that you do relate to what I said. My intentions are not to trash somebody’s image here. All I wanted with this post was to make a logical interpretation of this whole incident. What I wrote in this post is something everyone one would agree upon in coming 15-20 days. The reason why I say this is because at this time everyone is thinking emotionally and nobody seems to go into the depth of whole incident. People fail to understand this event the way it should be.
      Everyone is just taking everything on face value.

      About the last part of your comment; I am aware that I do make grammatical errors and I am constantly improving on that part. I would not feel bad if you may want to point out specific errors and post them on this link. [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/1T22b_DnZRfKQr-b4gPG6AAgVMYerk7KJHmvOgyrNGao/viewform?pli=1]

      Many thanks,
      Aditya Bhasin

      • Nice try mister aditya to prove that providing strong remarks is your forte.. But sad to see such biased opinion. You have no right to badmouth her and poor sooraj, oh please! How every typical MCP of you, not surprised to see this coming though as it’s God’s very own country where come rain or shine, guys would be guys!

        Just because India is a free country.. dont just abuse the privilege!

      • another of your classic response
        “My intentions are not to trash somebody’s image here”
        I mean how stupid–You trashed someone and then you say..I never intended to…its like killing someone and saying..oh i never intended to
        Ashamed Aditya Ahamed of you today–Your responses are lamer than your post
        You disrespected someone without knowing the whole truth and went about defending someone who you do not know…
        and now trying to coverup by saying “My intentions are not to trash somebody’s image here”

        You owe an apology to so many people

          • It is not about defending…No one here defended Jiah here… People are trying to tell you that you are trashing her…sadly you are too thick skinned to understand what others are saying because you are looking from your colored glass.

      • Alas Aditya! You think you are one of the precious few who can think ahead of the many?! You could debate and write ‘open letters’ until you are blue around the gills but no one will ever know what really went on in the minds and lives of the two. So what makes you think your half-baked opinions would matter?

        You want me to give you a lesson in English grammar?! Oh you must be kidding, Mr ‘English Literature Graduate’ and future ‘novelist’. Nice try.

        • Navin,

          This is my opinion, like you have your opinion. I wanted to present it across and I did it. It is obviously not important that everybody should agree with my opinion.

          About the lesson part, well you only mentioned that I should proofread my blogs. So I am only asking for feedback so that I can improve. I hope you understand that there is a thin line of difference b/w lessons and feedback.

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