Well, I wrote this blog, a little while ago; but could not post it. So here it goes.
suggest that the girl was ‘Raped’ by a 17 yr old boy. At the moment she is in a government hospital in Mumbai and has decided to give birth to the baby, moreover because the she is already 24 week pregnant thus abortion is not a possibility. The boy has been arrested on charges of Rape, and has been sent to observation home. The girl’s family for but obvious reasons wants the girl to give the child to an adoption home, after the birth.
After, reading a lot on internet and newspaper, I finally decided to pen down my view over this subject matter.
Why the boy has been arrested under charges of rape?
It has come to the light that the boy was in a relationship with this girl for one year now. And they had sex in a national park, quite lot of times thus no question of been raped. Police has arrested the boy on charges of rape, which is inappropriate. I understand that because girl was under 16, the mutual sex also falls under category of rape, but is it really justified. The physical relationship between both of them was on mutual grounds. They both agreed to have sex, so where the rape thing comes into the picture? Just because the girl is now pregnant, as she agreed to have sex without protection, you would book the boy under charges of rape?
What should be done to boy?
There is no doubt that boy should be punished, punished not because he raped somebody. But because he had physical relation with a minor girl, and when he had to face the consequences of girls’ pregnancy, he left her and started ignoring her.
What happens to girl?
The girl is demanding that she’d like to give birth to the baby; brave decision, no doubt on that. And I appreciate her guts. She says that she’d like to handover the baby to boy and force him to marry. This decision is also acceptable, I mean why not, if the boy had guts to make physical relation in a public place than why not have guts to accept the fruit. But the bone of contention here is that, are both the teenagers, mature enough to take care of baby at this time? I believe no. In coming years, say like 4-6 yrs may be yes. The girl will now have to give birth to the baby, but what I think is that, she should let somebody else take care of the baby. I’ am not saying this because I want the guy to be safe or anything; But because of social implications of the whole matter. Let somebody else take care of the baby, and after both the girl and boy are mature enough to take care of baby, as they marry, let them take over the reasonability of child.
The broader prospective
Having physical relation has become a new ‘Cool’ thing among our generation. Earlier, girls used to be shy of talking about such matters. But now, they have no problem, declaring that who deflowered them. It the matter of time, earlier these things were kept to oneself, but now tables have turned. Everybody is ready to share their personal life. And as we grow up and move into another set of generation, we have to accept this. The talks about implementing sex education in schools have been going on for a long time, but no fruitful result came out. What I genuinely believe is that, today’s school students don’t need a subject on sex. They’re already aware of everything; they should know and should not know. The need is to develop a sense of responsibility among these teenage couples; responsibility of the fact that, what could be the consequences of their adventurous ride.